The First & Most Basic Step To Becoming Successful With Women

The first step to becoming successful with women is this:
Learn to have basic conversational skills.
You MUST be able to talk to anyone at anytime -- anywhere.
As simple as it may sound, this should be the first step you MUST simply master.
And WHY must you do this?
Well, think about it -- if you're able to literally talk to anyone AS and WHEN you like, don't you think you'll subconsciously be improving your social conversational skills with people in general?
The idea for you to do so is so that you become more COMFORTABLE talking to people.
That's it.
Forget whether it's with a guy or a girl for the moment.
Just make 'talking to people' second nature for you.
If you're shy with the girls, then a good place to start is with the guys - especially the guys who are already great with the ladies.
Use them as practice.
Seriously.
Think about it, common sense tells you if you can't even feel comfortable talking to guys, what makes you think you'll be better off with the girls?
You can learn A LOT from these so-called 'players' as well.
Remember, the fastest way for you to become great with women is to MODEL after those who are ALREADY achieving the success that you want with women at the moment.

You see, once you're comfortable talking with the guys, then you can start moving forward and try talking to girls instead.
Remember: make GRADUAL improvements -- on a daily basis.
Think about it: If you can gradually improve your conversational skills by a mere 1% each day CONSISTENTLY, by the very end of the month, your conversational skills would have improved by a whopping 30%!
NEVER underestimate the power of gradual improvement!
The next key step here is for you to go out and TAKE ACTION.
Can you imagine how much more fun your life would be if you'll be able to just walk up and talk to any girl that you like?
With this skill in hand, you'll be able to mess around with any girl you choose, anywhere you like!
It could be just be the sales girl from your local shopping mall, to the waitress who serves you coffee, to even the girl sitting next to you in the bus stop!
Here's something you should also know when it comes to talking to women.
Most guys tend to try TOO HARD when they're talking to a woman -- a beautiful one especially.
They'll tend to be way too accomodating, friendly & 'complimentary' to the her which is exactly the OPPOSITE way that most 'alpha males' should be doing.
This is also EXACTLY the way that 90% of guys would be when they're talking to a woman which is wrong, wrong, WRONG!
What you SHOULD be doing in fact, is to NOT project the vibe that you're trying TOO HARD to gain their attention.
Remember: Be DIFFERENT.
For examples on how to be indifferent, You see, most guys, especially the shy ones, they tend to be too afraid in trying something funny or something cool especially if its with a beautiful woman.
My question for you is this?
What's the worst that could happen to you if you did?
But before we go into that, let me tell you this, and this really is a FACT. More often than not, the worst things that you would normally think off, will most likely NOT happen at all!
It's just your mind playing silly 'ol tricks on ya, that's it.
Now, worst case scenario is even if you DID fall flat on your face trying, at least you did something DIFFERENT, unlike the 99 other losers that said the same lame, over-accommodating lines that she's so accustomed to all along.
You see, if you really want to be great with women, you must be a super 'ALPHA' bloke -- a guy who's NOT afraid to speak his mind AND do the right thing in any given situation and be the leader of the pack.
Not be all wimpy and accommodating and stuff...
Get it?
Think about it -- then go out and DO it.
You'll SEE the difference right away.
And you can thank me later, ok? ;-)

10 Tips To Get Over Your Ex As Quickly As Possible

Make a clean break. As tempting as it can be, if you are still in love with your EX, and they don't reciprocate the feelings and intensity, then you're better off making a clean break. This is true every time. Ex lover rarely make good friends after a break up.

Delete all telephone numbers, email address and the like that contain your ex’s details. Keeping temptation at bay is vital.

Clear out as many personal items as you can. Obviously keeping practical stuff is important, but, if you’re using your ex’s left behind items to remember them, then that’s no good. Clear them out as soon as possible.

Treat yourself. Make sure you get used to enjoying yourself without your ex partner. Prove to yourself, your ex and others that you can smile again in spite of the circumstances. A divorce doesn’t mean you can’t laugh a lot.

Let your frustrations, anger and bitterness come out. Write down your feeling or get some counseling. Even if it’s just a friend who will listen to you for a while. Blow off steam – it’s natural.

Cleanse your current situation by buying new things for the house. New bedding and kitchen utensils are something you use every day. Get new items. Your life is still going to go on so distance yourself from the things you used with your ex. It will work wonders for you.

Give yourself time to heal. You don’t need to rush into a new relationship until your ready. Advice given to me as I was going through my divorce was to ‘clear the decks emotionally.’ Superb advice, you don’t need to rebound till its right for you.

Eliminate any negative self-talk. It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself after a break up. It can help you only for a very short while at the beginning. If you keep talking yourself down then you’ll find it harder to move on when the time is right for you.

Take charge of your life again. Make goals. Set yourself challenges. Maybe you always wanted to abseil or jump from a plane. Maybe learning yoga could be right for you. The world is your oyster.

Take comfort in the fact that it does get better each day. Say to yourself ‘every day in every way I’m getting better and better and better.’ It’s true and most people who have been divorced will tell you that suddenly one day you realize that the rest of your life can easily be the best of your life.

Dating Strategies and Tactics

To find a long term relationship, you must go after it. It probably isn't going to fall into your lap.

Here are some tips to improve your success.

1. You have to go after the one you want and then win them over. Be a friend - show attention, understanding, acceptance, and appreciation.

2. Satisfy emotional needs- show interest and listen to them. Spark a romantic emotion. Romance is a combination of hope with some doubt and it adds up to passion. People want
what they can't have.

3. The third part of love is respect. It is earned through your actions. You must show an independent and confident personality. You can live with them or without them. You are in no hurry and aren't desperate.

4. You really have to date several people at once. It will make you look like a great catch. When you have multiple options, anyone who wants to be with you will work much harder. Instead of you doing the chasing, they will be chasing you. This takes the pressure off of yourself. You really want to date a few people anyway before jumping from one long term relationship to another.

Dating Strategies to keep in mind:

You must be happy with yourself before you will have success. Be kind to yourself and turn off the negative thoughts. You can change what you can and forget the rest. Don't worry about things you can't change. If you can't change them, all the worry in the world wont do any good.

Set some goals and write them down. You must make a plan with a clear path you want to follow.

You must set aside a night each week to get out of the house. Go where others gather. Check the paper for ideas and get out there. How many people have you met at your house? Force yourself to go out anyway. It is only one night a week, you can still sit on the couch the other six nights. You aren't going to find new people unless you actually go out.

There are single and available people all over the place. Nearly every place you go, has single people if you LOOK. Start simple don't go after the hottest person(too much pressure). Talk to the average person, get a phone number and move on. It really is a simple two step process. Meet and greet, a short conversation with eye contact and then say Great meeting you, but I have got to run; could I get your number? The Key is to RELAX. The more you do this the easier it gets.

Take the initiative and be the first to show interest in them. It shows confidence. You are only trying to get that first date. Don't start fretting about your wedding and future children just yet. Keep it simple. But you must do it yourself, no one will do it for you. Don't let an opportunity pass by, get that phone number and go from there.

Rejection is part of the dating game. Don't take it personal, not everyone is going to want to date you. They may not be dating at all right now. You never know unless you ask. Don't be afraid of looking foolish, we all look foolish all the time. Use positive reactions in the face of rejection. You aren't worried if they say no. You asked and that is the most important thing. One more no means you
didn't waste your time and money on someone who isn't even interested. Plus you are just closer to finding the one who is interested. It is all practice and will make you a master at dating that much quicker.

Get out of the house and start looking tonight.